VIDEO INTRO: https://youtu.be/12AjKEQebdM
CBT and Me Part 3 – Changing Behaviors
Part 1 of this 3-part series was on Thinking,
Part 2 was Feelings, and now part 3 is about Behaviors.
Many people have behaviors they are trying to manage. This worksheet reviews
some skills specific to changing *negative behaviors (*For the purpose of
this exercise, to avoid being judgmental a “negative behavior” is any behavior
that a person recognizes as unhealthy or otherwise not good for their self. People
are encouraged to focus on their own behaviors for this exercise and not judge
one another’s choices)
You are not alone if it has been challenging for you to
change some behaviors and habits.
Opening Discussion – Easy,
Moderate, Difficult.
Discuss the following three questions about changing behaviors.
Not everyone may have an answer for each one which is okay:
1.
What is one behavior that you successfully
changed in your life that went relatively easily for you?
2.
What is a behavior you changed
that was moderately difficult (You succeeded but it took time and
effort)
3.
What is a behavior that has been difficult
for you to change, and why? (Addictions, habits, etc.)
· Keep difficult/challenging behaviors in mind for the
remainder of this exercise
Behavior Change Using CBT
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy tells us that our behaviors are very often a product of
our thoughts and feelings. Based on this concept then to change our behaviors
we need to adjust our thoughts and manage our feelings. There are several ways
that this can be done. This worksheet reviews some skills for adjusting
thoughts and managing feelings that can perpetuate negative behaviors that we
want to change/
Think before acting –
This may sound like a cliché, but it is very true and very effective. When we pause
before taking action there is a lot we can do to change what behaviors we
decide to act on.
Thoughts that can perpetuate negative behaviors – As a group review the list on the following page and share
examples from your own life if you have ever thought or said any of these
things to yourself about a negative behavior or habit that you know you need to
change.
Keep in mind, that everyone has their struggles with
changing some kind of behavior. Change can be quite challenging, and we all
change at our pace so there is no shame if this process takes a long time and a
lot of repeated efforts to get things going. The point is not to give up
trying. Change can be a lifelong process, but the struggle is worth the
rewards.
Review and discuss the statements on the following page:
- The pattern of each statement to follow is:
- Negative or distorted thought we may tell ourselves – followed by more accurate and truthful explanation
“One more time won’t hurt” – It might, one more time often keeps the problem going
and going
“I’ll start tomorrow” –
Have you said this to yourself in the past? What often happens when tomorrow
comes?
“I don’t care” – You may
not care now but later if you don’t like the outcome might you care then?
“This makes me feel good” – Good temporarily maybe, but long term, negative
behaviors may not feel so good
“I don’t have what it takes – Yes you do, everyone has capacity to learn and improve
even if its gradual
“I am justified this time” – Rationalizing a negative behavior is just an excuse to
keep going down a bad road
“I just can’t stop” –
It may be difficult, maybe the hardest thing you’ve done yet, but progress is still
possible
“They made me do it” –
No they didn’t “make you”, maybe they triggered you but coping skills can still
help
“Its just who I am” – Maybe
it is today who you think you are, but we all have potential for growth
“I messed up again so I should give up” – We all mess up, but we can all keep trying as long as
we are alive
“If my life was different, I could do this” – That may be so, but change is still possible despite
circumstances
“I’ll never….” – Never
say never – People can do some amazing things they thought they never could
“I’ll always…” – Yes,
there are some things we cannot change in life, but we can choose how we act
and react
Feelings-based
distortions
Discuss how we can erroneously use emotions as an excuse
for negative behaviors:
“I did (negative behavior) because I was ______ (Angry, offended, hurt, sad, depressed, embarrassed, etc.)
Keep in mind feelings can be powerful triggers that can
be challenging to deal with, however still we can develop skills for coping
with feelings without making negative or harmful choices regarding our
behaviors
Take home
thoughts for positive change:
What is at least one (or more) thought that you will try
to work on changing to better manage behavior?
What is one (or more) encouraging and helpful statement you can start to practice telling yourself to inspire positive growth and steady progress?
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